RUBY GOLDBERG PAULEY (SINDER)

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RUBY GOLDBERG PAULEY (nee SINDER) September 7, 1938 July 17, 2011 It is with deep sadness that we mourn the passing of Ruby, wife, mother and baba who passed away peacefully on Sunday, July 17, 2011. Ruby. For thousands of years the ruby has been considered one of the most rare and treasured gemstones on earth. Its qualities include a magnificent colour, excellent hardness, outstanding brilliance, and an inner and outer beauty that radiates warmth and a strong sense of vitality. This was the essence of our Ruby. Ruby was predeceased by her parents Esther Shuster and Harvey Sinder and sister Shelli Cooper. She was wife to our father, Ian Goldberg z l for 21 years to whom she was devoted. Her love and support for him never wavered. She is survived by her husband Alex Pauley of 27 years, children and grandchildren: Laurie Goldberg (Susanne), Ryan, Lindsay, Danielle, Jordi, Eli; Michael Goldberg (Ronee Downey), Michelle, Lauren, Iana; Grant Goldberg (Marni Hellner), Isanne, Maya, Noa; Karen Efron (Tamir), Roey, Eran. With Alex, she welcomed his children and grandchildren as her own, Karen Dutkevich (Joey); Ian Pauley (Roberta), Michael, Kevin; Alyson Culbert, Sonya, Abigail, Mika. Everyone who knew Ruby could attest to her inner warmth, strength and beauty. She had a gentleness to her, and a Cheshire Cat smile that would light up a room. Mom was 72 years old, four times chai. Her life was far too short, yet symbolically she lived a life of chai for each of her four children and their families. She was passionate about her children and grandchildren. She was an affectionate, loving, and caring wife, mother and baba. She was always there to greet with a kiss or a gentle stroke along the cheek. It warmed her heart to spend hours with her grandchildren just sitting and reveling in their company. She loved to take them to movies, out for dinner or shopping. She never missed a recital, performance or sports game. She was constantly planning her next trip to visit her children and grandchildren in Peterborough, Vancouver and Victoria. Ruby was a generous woman and an amazing cook and baker. We will always remember how hard she prepared for a holiday gathering or a Friday Shabbat meal. There were cookies and other delicious baking for the children at all times. There was always a standing order for her famous Winnipeg cheesecake. Ruby was born September 7, 1938 in Winnipeg. She attended Machray and Peretz schools and later attended St. John's High. She then went on to receive her nursing diploma in 1959. It was while she was working in the hospital that she met Ian, while he was doing his residency in Paediatrics. Together, Ruby and Ian instilled a sense of Jewish identity and love for Israel in their four children. We will never forget our family summer vacations to Israel. They instilled the importance of Gemilut Chasadim, acts of loving kindness. Growing up our home was always open to friends and strangers. Both Ruby and Ian were involved in volunteer work within the community. After Ian's death in 1981, Ruby emerged with strength and determination to create a joyous life once again. Later she met and married Alex; they were devoted to each other for 27 years. They shared years of joy, traveling, spending time together and making new and special friends. Mom was a devoted friend. She loved having friends around and enjoyed going to the movies, symphony, opera or simply going out for lunch. She had a magnetic personality, always making new friends, while maintaining close friendships that spanned more than 60 years. Ruby was classy and always up for adventure. She was an artist in her earlier years and has left a legacy of beautiful works that will always be cherished. In her last days she was surrounded by the incredible energy of her family. Her grandchildren were able to rise above the fear of death, rallying around her and enveloping her in love and affection. When mom was ready to go she left this world so peacefully. Funeral services took place at Congregation Etz Chayim with interment at Rosh Pina Memorial Park, officiated by Cantor Tracy Kasner Greaves. Shiva was observed at the home of Karen and Tamir Efron. Pallbearers were Tamir Efron, Marni Hellner, Ian Pauley, Benji Hecht, Aaron Benarroch and Marshall Stitz. Honorary pallbearers were Ronee Downey, Myra Frieman, Arnold Frieman, Bernice Greenberg, Bev Lockshin, Barbara Meyers, Evelyn Pearlman and Gnessie Vickar. Donations in memory of Ruby Goldberg Pauley may be made to the Canadian Liver Foundation or the Ruby Pauley Women's Endowment Fund at the Jewish Foundation of Manitoba. Mom/Ruby, your warmth, love, gentle soul, smile and radiance will be missed but never be forgotten. We will love you forever and always carry you in our hearts. Zichrona L'Vracha

As published in Winnipeg Free Press on Aug 13, 2011