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RAYMOND PHILIP OAKES (RAY)

Date of Passing: Jan 24, 2020

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RAYMOND PHILIP OAKES

Surrounded by his loving family, Raymond Philip Oakes passed peacefully from this world, after a short cancer journey, on January 24, 2020, at the age of 60 years.
He will always be remembered for his love and will be watching over his wife of 38 years, Rose (nee Kamchen), sons, Daniel and Bentley, daughter-in-law Alicia, granddaughter Vivienne Rose, father Gordon, brothers, Les (and Hilary) and Robert (and Hilary), sisters-in-law, Maggie and Irene, nieces and nephew. He was predeceased by his mother, Jean, in 2019.
He was a devoted family man, and was proud of his sons who are considerate, generous, and strong men. To his granddaughter, he will always be 'G-Ray'.
Ray's legacy, including over 37 years in his law practice, touched the lives of thousands - more than he knew - and he loved helping people in all of his endeavours. He was known for his positive, calm and easy-going nature. His legal career commenced in 1983 when he articled at the same law firm which later bore his name as a partner - BD Oakes LLP was the successor to the Booth Dennehy LLP group. Ray was proud to be of service to his wide-ranging and extensive clientele, including his corporate clients, his Ontario cottage-country clients, and friends, lawyers, and colleagues. He took pride in acting for the motorcyclists of Manitoba (CMMG), who he represented before the Public Utilities Board for over 25 years.
Ray lived life to the fullest, and was always eager for adventures, opportunities, and connections. He was known for his courageous, energetic, and generous spirit. These qualities were always served up with good humour and wit, which was known and loved by those who met him. He made friends readily, and always shared his gifts with those he loved and those in need. He often said that no one is a stranger, and this philosophy was amply rewarded in his time of need by the complete support of his family and friends. We extend our warmest and heartfelt thanks to all those who connected with him most recently.
Music was the soundtrack of Ray's life, and he loved playing the guitar, making music with friends, and sharing his passion and knowledge of music through stories, movies, videos, and ambience while cooking (and eating) gourmet food with his family and friends. He enjoyed all music genres including the blues, classic rock, country, hair metal, and the music of the islands, such as reggae, pan steel drums, rhumba, samba, salsa, and seafaring shanty songs. Truly, he was an eclectic connoisseur of music.
Ray loved the outdoors, and enjoyed fishing, boating, shore lunches, star gazing, observing eagles, and the smell of a birch fire. Nature was an integral part of the life he shared with his family at Lake of the Woods. Special times were sunsets on the dock with a glass of Old Boys Port on quiet evenings, listening to the loons, and enjoying the company of others. Ray always prided himself on safely ferrying his guests home by boat at night.
Ray's wide-ranging interests included golfing, pirate lore and dancing. He was an excellent dancer, and loved to dance with Rose in varied styles such as polka, waltz, two-step, rock, soul, salsa, and country. It was not a party unless there was dancing, whether at a dinner party, cottage, in a backyard, or in other countries. From his extensive and enjoyable years at the lake, to family travel in Canada, the Dakotas, Florida, Texas, the Caribbean, and Europe, Ray collected a vast array of stories and experiences which he loved to share with his mastery of story-telling. In particular, his intimate knowledge of history, culture, and travel experiences in the Caribbean islands provided rich stories which brought him and his listeners great pleasure.
Ray is now boating in heaven with a loud stereo and his late friends, including Dunc who passed in 2019. He knew his family and friends will think of the good times, and his wish was that such memories are shared with music, a favourite beverage, and love. He remains with us forever in our hearts, remembrances, and stories.

Ray's Wisdom:

Grief is like a wake behind a boat. It can be a huge wave at first right behind you. Don't be swamped. Keep moving and the waves will dissipate in time and become calmer. Then the memories of your departed loved one shall shine brighter than the stars above. There is no force stronger than love.


The Oak Leaf, like all leaves, lives for its appointed time, and does not struggle against the wind that carries it away. With the courage and strength of an oak tree to the end - from a little acorn did this mighty Oakes grow.

Party like an islander and hug your family.


Publish Date: Feb 1, 2020

RAYMOND PHILIP OAKES

Surrounded by his loving family, Raymond Philip Oakes passed peacefully from this world after a short cancer journey on January 24, 2020, at the age of 60 years.
He will always be remembered for his love and will be watching over his wife of 38 years, Rose (nee Kamchen), sons, Daniel and Bentley, daughter-in-law Alicia, grand-daughter Vivienne Rose, father Gordon, brothers, Les (and Hilary) and Robert (and Hilary), sisters-in-law, Maggie and Irene, nieces and nephew. He was predeceased by his mother, Jean, in 2019.
He was a devoted family man, and was proud of his sons who are considerate, generous, and strong men. To his granddaughter, he will always be 'G-Ray'.
Ray's legacy, including over 37 years in his law practice, touched the lives of thousands - more than he knew - and he loved helping people in all of his endeavours. He was known for his positive, calm and easy-going nature. His legal career commenced in 1983 when he articled at the same law firm which later bore his name as a partner - BD Oakes LLP was the successor to the Booth Dennehy LLP group. Ray was proud to be of service to his wide-ranging and extensive clientele, including his corporate clients, his Ontario cottage-country clients, and friends, lawyers, and colleagues. He took pride in acting for the motorcyclists of Manitoba (CMMG), who he represented before the Public Utilities Board for over 25 years.
Ray lived life to the fullest, and was always eager for adventures, opportunities, and connections. He was known for his courageous, energetic, and generous spirit. These qualities were always served up with good humour and wit, which was known and loved by those who met him. He made friends readily, and always shared his gifts with those he loved and those in need. He often said that no one is a stranger, and this philosophy was amply rewarded in his time of need by the complete support of his family and friends. We extend our warmest and heartfelt thanks to all those who connected with him most recently.
Music was the soundtrack of Ray's life, and he loved playing the guitar, making music with friends, and sharing his passion and knowledge of music through stories, movies, videos, and ambience while cooking (and eating) gourmet food with his family and friends. He enjoyed all music genres including the blues, classic rock, country, hair metal, and the music of the islands, such as reggae, pan steel drums, rhumba, samba, salsa, and seafaring shanty songs. Truly, he was an eclectic connoisseur of music.
Ray loved the outdoors, and enjoyed fishing, boating, shore lunches, star gazing, observing eagles, and the smell of a birch fire. Nature was an integral part of the life he shared with his family at Lake of the Woods. Special times were sunsets on the dock with a glass of Old Boys Port on quiet evenings, listening to the loons, and enjoying the company of others. Ray always prided himself on safely ferrying his guests home by boat at night.
Ray's wide-ranging interests included golfing, pirate lore and dancing. He was an excellent dancer, and loved to dance with Rose in varied styles such as polka, waltz, two-step, rock, soul, salsa, and country. It was not a party unless there was dancing, whether at a dinner party, cottage, in a backyard, or in other countries. From his extensive and enjoyable years at the lake, to family travel in Canada, the Dakotas, Florida, Texas, the Caribbean, and Europe, Ray collected a vast array of stories and experiences which he loved to share with his mastery of story-telling. In particular, his intimate knowledge of history, culture, and travel experiences in the Caribbean islands provided rich stories which brought him and his listeners great pleasure.
Ray is now boating in heaven with a loud stereo and his late friends, including Dunc who passed in 2019. He knew his family and friends will think of the good times, and his wish was that such memories are shared with music, a favourite beverage, and love. He remains with us forever in our hearts, remembrances, and stories.

Ray's Wisdom:

Grief is like a wake behind a boat. It can be a huge wave at first right behind you. Don't be swamped. Keep moving and the waves will dissipate in time and become calmer. Then the memories of your departed loved one shall shine brighter than the stars above. There is no force stronger than love.


The Oak Leaf, like all leaves, lives for its appointed time, and does not struggle against the wind that carries it away. With the courage and strength of an oak tree to the end - from a little acorn did this mighty Oakes grow.

Party like an islander and hug your family.


Publish Date: Jan 28, 2020

As published in the Winnipeg Free Press on Jan 28, 2020, Feb 01, 2020

Condolences & Memories (28 entries)

  • I was so shocked and saddened to recently hear of Ray's passing. I met him years ago as I worked with his father Gordon and his brother Robert. Ray also helped me many times with Ontario Cottage purchases, sales and other legal matters. I could always depend on him to get the job done in a timely calm manner. We met may times at events at Clearwater Bay. I always enjoyed our conversations and was struck by his calm demeanor and a smile that reminded me of his dad. We had a heartfelt conversation this summer at the Zig Zag Yacht Club about his mom's passing and the special bond they had. Such a loss. My condolences to his family. I will miss our summer conversations. - Posted by: Debbie Kolaski (Friend & Client) on: Feb 11, 2020

  • We were away at the time of Ray's passing and only discovered the shocking and saddening news today! Though our friendship wasn't a close one, it will remain meaningful to us. He was indeed a warm person, and golfing and sharing a meal with Ray and Rose will continue to be among our special memories. We will be praying for Rose and the family. May you find strength and comfort in the wonderful memories made together with Ray. - Posted by: Arnie & Brenda Klymchuk (Friends) on: Feb 03, 2020

  • Ray was the ATA Automotive Trades lawyer for years, I met him 20 years ago while I was President and we recently hooked up again as I am again President. He was a fantastic Lawyer who knew his way around the PUB. We made some big gains for the Industry working together and he again was in the fight with us until his passing. He took me out for lunch months ago little did I realize he was saying goodbye. He never complained and relished in our accomplishments. Ray shook my hand and gave me a hug, he said see you again my friend. RIP my friend. - Posted by: Johnny Vernaus (Client and Friend) on: Feb 02, 2020

  • We are so saddened by the loss of our truly exceptional and unique friend Ray. Our thoughts are with you, Rose, and your family. So many memories: spontaneous fishing days on Lake of the Woods, seadoo adventures on Shoal Lake, showing up spontaneously by snowmobile at our new house with reinforcements to unload our furniture, wine tasting, luau party, movies with that crazy loud sound system, pirate birthday party at Fort Garry Hotel and the band he played with (so much fun!), ice fishing up north... such a zest for life. He set an example that all of us could follow: live every day to its fullest, adventure is always out there to be had, whether big or small. You are missed but well remembered. - Posted by: Peter and Erika (Friends) on: Feb 01, 2020

  • We were surprised about Ray's illness, then to find out he has passed so quickly. Ray has always been there for us & our boys. He always held that Fig branch, helping others. Sharing your sadness in the loss of Ray and sending you comfort during this difficult time. Knowing the joy that Ray brought to the world will never be forgotten... - Posted by: Ed & Elizabeth (Kuki) Kuklica (Long time friend) on: Feb 01, 2020

  • Dear Rose, Danny, Ben, and other family members. Arlene and I are devastated with the news of Ray's passing, but relieved that his days of suffering have come to an end. It is just inconceivable that we have all lost someone so dear. Ray was a person of exceptional character and talents, and one of the most-outgoing and personable individuals we have had the fortune to know. We treasured his profound friendship and generous nature, which granted us decades of wonderful times together and now, these have become cherished memories. Seeing his big smile on meeting, feeling his special handshake and embrace, boating and fishing on picturesque Lake of the Woods, watching the golden sun go down while sitting on the dock, strumming our guitars and listening to his vast collection of music and movies, witnessing him flailing on his imaginary drums in tune with loud rock music, and enjoying the meals he loved to prepare (usually involving pickerel); these are a few of our favourite remembrances. No one enjoyed life more, and appreciated the gift of each day, like our dear friend Ray. We miss him terribly, and will hold him close to our hearts forever. Robert Wrigley and Arlene Dahl - Posted by: Robert Wrigley (Friends) on: Jan 30, 2020

  • Our deepest condolences to Rosie and the boys. We met Ray and Rose on a sailing trip in the BVI's and became immediate friends. Ray's genuine interest in others, gentle nature and sense of fun was contagious. We had so much fun with Ray then, and most recently at his 60th Birthday Pirate Party. So happy we got to spend even a little time with such a kind, fun loving, and intelligent man. Rosie your relationship was one for the ages, you could tell you adored each other, so incredibly special. Rest in peace Ray, Rosie our thoughts are with you and your family. - Posted by: Tracey and Jeff Kleysen (friends) on: Jan 30, 2020

  • Heard about Ray's passing through the family grapevine. Our condolences to you Rose, and to your family. You are in our thoughts during this difficult time. - Posted by: Ruth & Michael Fuller (distant relative) on: Jan 30, 2020

  • The Imhoff family from across the street would like to offer our deepest sympathy for your loss. The Oakes were great neighbours for over 30 years. Our son Matthew shared many experiences with Daniel in the Scouts and on soccer teams. Ray was always there to help push our various vehicles into the driveway. I hope that we can continue to keep in touch. - Posted by: Terry Imhoff (Neighbor ) on: Jan 29, 2020

  • Our deepest condolences to Rose and family. Ray was a unique individual who positively impacted the lives of many people. His zest for life was evident to all who knew him. Memories of his many adventures will remain with us always. - Posted by: Terry Flynn and Angela Meyer (Friends) on: Jan 29, 2020

  • We are so sorry to learn of Ray’s illness and passing. We recall fondly the times he and Rose came to the Kendal Inlet dock parties on Friday nights in the summer. We are also grateful for his help and expertise when we sold our place at Lake of the Woods. Praying for you Rose and family. May your memories of this special man give you comfort. - Posted by: Monty and MaryBeth Flom (Client/friend LOTW) on: Jan 29, 2020

  • Over the past 10 years Raymond helped me to purchase 2 homes and 1 cottage. We enjoyed talking cabin and lake talk, he was a very nice man. I'm so sorry to hear of his passing. Our family's prayers will be with your family. God Bless. - Posted by: Davy Doer (Client) on: Jan 29, 2020

  • Thank you Raymond for being a wonderful son and friend. Your support for me after my wife Jean passed away helped me to continue living. Any father would be proud to have as soon like you. Rest in peace you will always be in my heart. - Posted by: Gordon Oakes (Father) on: Jan 28, 2020

  • We were so very sad to hear this news. Rose please know that we have you, the boys and all your family in our prayers. Ray was a truly wonderful person. - Posted by: Tannis & Andrew Clinton (Friend ) on: Jan 28, 2020

  • We are very sad to hear of Bentley's Dad's passing. Gone too soon. Our hearts go out to you, Rose, Daniel, Bentley and Alicia and all of his loved ones who will miss him so very much. Rest in peace, dear Raymond. Andrea and Carmen - Posted by: Andrea and Carmen Carlucci (Friends) on: Jan 28, 2020

  • Deepest sympathies to you Rose and your family. I only met Ray a short time ago. But I feel like I've known him for years. I feel blessed to have had Ray in my life. He truly is an extraordinary person. I could see the love he has for you and your family and I'm sure he'll watch over you. Peace be with you all. Hugs and love from Gwen and Bernie - Posted by: Gwen Voroney (Friend) on: Jan 28, 2020

  • I am so sorry to hear if Ray’s passing. My sincere condolences to the family. I knew Ray through his lengthy representation of the CMMG at PUB hearings. He took this continuous challenge extremely seriously and presented studied and thoughtful arguments throughout the entire process. He was always professional in his approach and for that he gained the respect of PUB, CMMG and all he came in contact with. I will miss he wise counsel. - Posted by: Marcel Normandeau (Friend) on: Jan 28, 2020

  • Our thoughts and prayers are with your family at this time. - Posted by: The Swerdyliak Family (Friend) on: Jan 28, 2020

  • It saddens me greatly to hear of Rays passing. I met Ray shortly after we founded the CMMG and he has been a force to be reckoned with for us at the PUB hearings ever since. He has always done an exemplary job for the members and motorcyclists at large and he was always a pleasure to deal with on a personal level. My deepest condolences to his family and many friends. Rest in peace Ray, you'll be missed by all. JP - Posted by: John Prest (Friend) on: Jan 28, 2020

  • Our family is very saddened to hear about Ray’s passing ,I will always remember the good times we had fly in fishing ,campsite sing songs, scotch tasting nights , Rose and family please accept our deepest condolences, God has chosen another angel to watch over us. - Posted by: Glen Gratton (Friend) on: Jan 28, 2020

  • To Rose, Pops, and the entire Oaks family, I am so sorry for your loss, Ray was a very special and dear person to me, We will forever miss him and remember all the good times that we had with him. Love you pal. - Posted by: Jeff and Michele Sopko (Friends ) on: Jan 28, 2020

  • Best Brother ever, and he will be deeply missed. - Posted by: Les Oakes and Family (Brother) on: Jan 28, 2020

  • Ray was a very cherished member of our Firm "Family". He was a very special person whose presence in our office and in our lives has been, and will be, greatly missed. He was an outstanding lawyer, well-liked by all who knew him in the profession. His rapport with his clients was truly special, as evidenced by all of the well wishes we constantly receive for him. His brave and undaunting outlook was inspiring and a true reflection of his optimism. Our deepest and heartfelt condolences go out to Rose, Danny and Ben, and Ray’s family. - Posted by: Janet Jardine (Friend adn Law Partner) on: Jan 28, 2020

  • I worked at the Winnipeg Land Titles office from 1979 until 1997. Ray was one of those lawyers you could call if there were issues with documents and he would be there immediately. His clients were foremost in his mind. Be strong Rose, you were a great team...not to be forgotten. - Posted by: Randy Clark (Former client) on: Jan 28, 2020

  • To Rose and all the Oakes family I hope you can feel the hugs from the Sobering family. I felt an emptiness when I read this today. Memories flood back to me . Ray came into my office and said he wanted a summer job, I asked why I should hire him. He said you hired Les best answer I ever heard. Now what did we accomplish not sure what I did know is we sure had a lot of laughs and a great time. We argued about nothing we laughed about every thing. Ray helped our family when we needed help. And I am not sure that I said thanks enough for the great times and through the tough times. Travel safe and dance with the angels. - Posted by: don sobering and family (friend) on: Jan 28, 2020

  • My heartfelt condolences to Rose, Danny and Bentley. Your husband, father was a special person, always looking out for others best interests. Knowing Ray for 40 plus years, was a great all around experience. He taught me many things, and I will always be grateful for the times we had together, whether it was sledding, fishing or staying up into the wee hours of the morning with his guitar, belting out tunes. So here's to remembering all the good times and memories that will stay with us until me meet again. Really going to miss you Bro. Doug & Christine Gratton - Posted by: doug gratton (friend) on: Jan 28, 2020

  • Ray you will be so very missed by so many. We are so saddened to hear of your illness and passing. Our heart goes out to your family. Thank you for all your legal advice and work over the years. And thank you for welcoming me/us in to the LOTW family. Gone way too young.....Especially for your zest for life. We are thankful to have known you! We will be sure to be there for Rose! - Posted by: Laurie and Mark Bonten (Friends) on: Jan 28, 2020

  • Our times, travels and fishing trips are always fresh in my mind. So Sorry to see you go dear Brother. BLESS! - Posted by: Kimbo (Friend) on: Jan 28, 2020

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